How Losing My Hair Was the Hardest Lesson of my Adult Life

I have been thinking about how I would write about this experience for years. This morning, I feel like I’m ready to share it. My intention is not to share this for pity or attention for what I’ve been through. We all go through hard times. It is to share with you how our bodiesContinue reading “How Losing My Hair Was the Hardest Lesson of my Adult Life”

Our Obsession with Getting There

We talk a lot in Western Culture about getting there. And by there, I mean, anywhere but here. Only three more hours left in my shift My assignment is due tomorrow and then I can breathe again I just need to get through this month of crazy scheduling and then it will all be worthContinue reading “Our Obsession with Getting There”

If You Knew You Were Already Enough

How would things change for you if you really, deep-down-heart-space knew that you were enough. Would you make different decisions? Would you keep different relationships? Would you spend your time differently? Would you say no more? Would you value yourself more? We humans, are like quilts. Woven with our experiences, stories, beliefs, past, knowledge. TheseContinue reading “If You Knew You Were Already Enough”

Human First, Therapist Second.

Really showing up is hard. Allowing yourself to be seen is hard. Its also deeply transformative. This is what I struggle with in sharing things about my personal life on social media. That said, its what happens in therapy -exposure. Though in a therapists office, that exposure is met with an empathetic, holding presence andContinue reading “Human First, Therapist Second.”

How to Deal with Negative Thoughts

When it comes to negative thoughts, illnesses, defeating the “bad guy”, monsters or what have you, our culture is obsessed with fighting. If you’re reading this, I bet that fighting your thoughts hasn’t worked for you. When we consistently try to ignore, suppress or push away something, it only gets stronger. The same goes forContinue reading “How to Deal with Negative Thoughts”

Why Taking Care of Yourself is Not Selfish

When we sacrifice ourselves to please others, be it saying yes when we mean no, or listening to your friend rant when you don’t have the mental energy to really be there, we do a disservice to ourselves. Often we see these self sacrificing behaviors as admirable, when we put another’s needs before ours. ItsContinue reading “Why Taking Care of Yourself is Not Selfish”