I have been thinking for a while about what would be the most helpful to write at this time for you. I decided I’m going to write you a list of reassurance from the heart. These are some of the things I have been thinking about lately, I hope something here lands for you.
I’d like you to know that you don’t have to have everything together, right now or ever. That there is no good or bad, right or wrong way to go about life. It just is.
We don’t get a medal when we have sacrificed ourselves to the point of exhaustion. We just get exhausted and resentful.
There is nothing wrong with you. How do I know? Context is everything. Given things you’ve been through, its quite understandable you have that belief. Having that belief doesn’t make it true.
Everyone can benefit from therapy, and therapy is not always for everyone.
There is way more to life than just productivity. Productivity is a capitalist value that we have been socialized to believe that we must be productive in order to be of value. Perhaps this was intially meant value as in money, however there is much guilt we harbour over not being productive, so I believe that value can also mean self worth. Productivity does not equal self worth. You matter because you exist.
You are always allowed to change your mind.
There’s more to see and enjoy when you slow down.
Uncomfortable emotions and feelings are part of the human condition. They need to be felt.